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The Role Robin Williams Couldn’t Play: Biblical Counsel for Depression

Monday evening, while I sat outside grilling and watching my children play in the yard, my phone alerted me with the familiar sound of an incoming news story. Thinking that it probably consisted of a NFL preseason alert or some other announcement of similar importance I did not immediately pick it up.

When I did, the news on the screen told me something I did not expect. Robin Williams had encountered a role that he couldn’t play. Like so many in our times, a disorganized sadness or depression had begun to plague his days. This actor who found ways to connect with audiences through comedy always had a way of communicating in more dramatic roles the real struggles of life. Unfortunately with the depression he suffered of late, he discovered a sadness for which he saw no possible end or purpose other than to take his life.

For several days I have reflected upon what I wanted to say about Williams’ life and death. My prayer is that what follows has the kind of tone that communicates my appreciation for a man I respected and a concern for those who may share his struggles.

As a Christian the news of Williams’ death reminds me that

 1) Depression does not respect persons. Like so many forms of suffering in this world after the Fall, depression can happen to anyone.

2) Depression is no laughing matter. Depression does not end when the director yells cut or our day job ends. 24 hours a day for an average time of six to nine months during a major depressive episode, the person suffering must face the sense of spiraling out of control. Further the spiral down occurs much faster than the arduous climb back out. With such pressure any of us could find ourselves tempted as Williams was.

3) Depression is not something a person can act away. All of the comedy the world can offer will not cure the soul in anguish. We cannot hide behind an act that tells the world everything is okay forever. But with the pressures that each of us feel and Williams certainly felt, we may want to hide behind an act as long as we possibly can.

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Posted by on August 12, 2014 in Shepherding

 

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Planning Not to Procrastinate

Last week at seminary, my professors mentioned repeatedly the need to write a little bit each day on the major project report. They warned us not to procrastinate! That simple warning does not convey the biblical seriousness of neglecting a plan to avoid procrastination.

My wife and I had a physician early in our marriage who told us “If you don’t have a plan to prevent pregnancy, you have planed to get pregnant.” The proverb this doctor offered holds true when one applies it to this situation as well. A paraphrase might read like this, “if you don’t have a plan to prevent procrastination, you have planned to procrastinate.”

So what does the Bible say about this? Look at Romans 12:17. There Paul gives a warning against merely responding to the world’s evil in kind. He then gives each believer a practical plan to avoid such evil responses. He says “give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.” In other words Paul says to plan ahead not to do anything evil, including procrastination.

I can hear some of you now, asking if the Bible sees procrastination as a sin. Let me assure you that this word is in no concordance. That said, the Scriptures speak of it often as gratifying the desires of our flesh rather than fulfilling the calling we have from the Lord.

Turn over a page in your Bible to Romans 13:11-14. Paul there tells believers to wake up, making no provision – or opportunity/plan – for the desires of the flesh (13:14). In this passage Paul seems to echo the Old Testament Proverbs.

Proverbs 6:6-11 tells us that sleep and slumber allows poverty and want to come against the person like an armed man. Is that not exactly what procrastination does? Once we have put off what needs doing, the pressure of deadlines and unmet needs begins to press upon us. Solomon also speaks to the biblical response towards procrastination. Referring to the ant, Solomon points out how this creature follows a plan to meet future needs by practically laboring today. Thus the ant plans not to procrastinate.

Now you might be asking how to keep yourself from worrying if you have done enough for future needs? I always keep in mind Matthew 6:34. There it says “sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” Thus we can only do for tomorrow what we can accomplish today. Back to the ant example. The ant cannot store up everything for winter in one day. He can however put aside some for winter each day. Thus the ant, by God’s design has a plan not to procrastinate.

How about you? If you need to plan not to procrastinate, start making your plan by…

  1. Deciding upon an honorable goal.
  2. Then notice the lusts of your own flesh.
  3. Next, consider activities that will give no provision to the flesh, but progress to the goal.
  4. Finally plan to accomplish today what will help you reach your goal tomorrow.

If you would like to read more about this topic from a Biblical perspective see Jay E. Adams’ book What to Do on Thursday: Part Four.

 

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Why I Am Sitting in Classes Again…

I woke up at 4 AM this morning to come sit in class all day at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. That sounds crazy right! I thought so too, especially as I thought about the hours our family has spent on the road in the past few weeks. It seems even more crazy, when I think about the class that I have come to sit in this weekend and then again next week. The course lays out for me the doctor of ministry project process, proposal guidelines, writing helps, and most terrifying, the expectations for the oral exam.

So why did I choose to continue on this crazy journey? Why dedicate myself to this sort of grueling work? Why commit as much as two more years of my life to receive this piece of paper. Allow me to offer two main reasons.

1. Robbie came with me because he really wanted to spend “Daddy-time” with me. Knowing that I will get to spend time with Robbie makes a tremendous difference to my “want-to”. I do not know what The Lord has called Robbie to do, but I do know that he will experience his own craziness. Seeing and knowing how his Daddy responds to such times will impact him. For seven days I have the privilege of training and nurturing him (Ephesians 6:4) by showing him the kind of student I am. If I want him to imitate me, as I imitate Christ, then he must see me imitate Christ in my everyday life (1 Cor. 11:1)

2. In the last session, one successful DMIN student came to share his testimony that the craziness one day ends. During questions about the oral exams, he shared that one of the major lines of questioning in his oral exams requested that he tell how his project had impacted him. For me, even though I have not completed my DMIN yet, I can readily say that right now the process has humbled me. In my life, I have never felt more weak than in trying to juggle all my responsibilities. Too often one of thee juggling balls drop. Even so, I know that through this process, The Lord has proven 2 Cor. 12:10. When I am weak, Christ proves himself strong.

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Posted by on June 21, 2014 in At the Parsonage

 

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Seven Prayers We Are Praying After SBC 14

As my family and I pack our bags to head home to Enoree, SC after SBC 14 in Baltimore, I wanted to share several prayers that we will be praying as we head home.

1. We thank God that our Convention looked a little more this year like we understand heaven will look. From the speakers in the pastor’s conference, to those who stood on the convention platform, to those in the seats it seemed that the convention better represented all nations and ages who Christ came to redeem.

2. We thank God for the important balance evident in the call for Church Revitalization alongside of Church Planting. Established churches desperately need pastors who will bring the same missional principles from Scripture that church planters utilize to birth new churches. Having submitted the resolution and offered a motion to this effect, I was especially thankful to voice as a messenger the mood of the Convention.

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3. We thank God for the tone Paige Patterson set when he came humbly recognizing the need to restore his relationship with the Convention. I understand Danny Akin’s point that Paige Patterson need not apologize for his willingness to admit a Muslim student at SWBTS in hopes that student would clearly hear the gospel. Even so, I am thankful that Dr. Patterson set a good example for us as Southern Baptists by recognizing how his actions broke a relationship with some Southern Baptists. Further his desire to apologize and reestablish that trust follows our biblical mandate to reconcile with one whom we have offended. This is the brotherly love that lets the world know we are Christ’s disciples.

4. We thank God for the largest ever Lottie Moon Christmas Offering! My Grams shared the story of Lottie Moon with us with tears in her eyes about her sacrifice that others might know Jesus as Savior and Lord. In the year of Grams’ death, in which we asked that people remember her by giving to the Lottie Moon Offering, this fact makes us especially thankful. For our family it was as if The Lord reminded us that Grams now celebrates eternal life with Lottie Moon and the nations in the presence of Christ.

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Experiencing Joy Among God’s Flock

discipleshipA few weeks ago I shared an article that detailed several prayer requests that a congregation can pray for her pastor. With that in mind, it seems appropriate to offer pastors several prayer requests pray for the congregation among whom our Lord has given you to serve (1 Peter 5:2).

Don’t forget pastor, that you do not serve at the pleasure of the congregation. You serve at the pleasure of the Lord. He has assigned you a field of service, with a congregation among whom you will serve. Pastor, this should liberate you to pray heartfelt and genuine prayers that your members might serve the Lord with you. Similarly, pastor this should allow you to minister and pray even if your congregation does not choose to serve the Lord with you. The ministry of the Word the Lord has called you to accomplish demands that you call people to follow, not push them to follow. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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When Tears Fall in the Pastorate…

LonelyPrayerIn the recent weeks, I have experienced a great burden as I have watched on the sidelines as three pastors in our association have resigned their churches. For various reasons, these pastors found that they could no longer serve in the capacities to which they once felt so strongly called to serve. Even though I do not face any kind of pain or tears at this moment, I have known at times what each one of these men must have felt. WIth that in mind can I offer you a few ways that you can pray for your pastor?

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How Should Christians Say Hello? (Part 2)

To read Part One of this series click here.

The Reason for This Regard

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Jesus’ example of greeting includes an extreme moment when he even washed the disciples’ feet.

If Romans 12:16 affirms unity in Christ as the necessary means from which believers learn to regard others enough to greet them, Romans 15:7 speaks to the reason that one believer should welcome another believer. After pointing out in Chapter thirteen the way Christians submit to authorities and how they refrain from judging different brothers or causing weak brothers to stumble; Paul begins to close this section of his letter by reminding the believers that he asks them to live in this way due to the example of Christ.[1] The greater context of this verse mentions living in harmony in such a way that believers glorify God together, with one voice. Paul repeats the sentiment of Romans 12:16 in such a way that he makes this occasion sound like the believers have joined in worship singing his praise together. Then Paul draws this conclusion of welcoming one another in the form of command. The Greek words command believers to receive one another with kindness.[2] Since believers do this in order to follow the example of Christ, one must ask, “How did Christ “welcome” believers?” Christ welcomed believers in spite of their sin (Rom. 5:8) in order to lead people to repentance (Rom. 2:4). Thus as believers “welcome one another” they should do so in such a way that each one also receives encouragement to continue in a lifestyle of repentance and faith. Notice as well that the prepositional phrase “for God’s glory” aids and confirms the conclusions thus provided. Believers, like Christ should “welcome one another” so that God can be glorified through that greeting. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on February 5, 2014 in Church Watch Care

 

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