Message Monday: If Mama Ain’t Happy, Can Anybody be Happy?

11 May
Message Monday: If Mama Ain’t Happy, Can Anybody be Happy?

Admittedly this post is a little late, but I thought it would be wise to share with those in the church family the rest of my message from mother’s day. This is not a full manuscript, but my bullet points.


  • We have all heard the phrase I titled the message after. If this kind of broken relationship were the only brokenness to worry about, life would be much simpler.
  • Today we live in a world of brokenness. Carle Zimmerman in 1947 listed five characteristics of societies that fail. (Family & Civilization)
    • Marriage is devalued.
    • Husbands and Wives do not seek to complement and cooperate to build a home & family.
    • Children disrespect and defy parents and authority.
    • Sexual Promiscuity is celebrated.
    • People tolerate formerly aberrant activities.
  • A foolish mistake or intentional sin may have led to the brokenness in a person’s life; however, God gives the grace of children, relationships, churches and ultimately Christ to mend our brokenness. The only problem is that most of the time we ignore God’s gracious gifts.
  • Billy Graham said “When the morals of society are upset, the family is the first to suffer. The home is the basic unit of our society and a nation is only as strong as her homes. The breaking up of. Home does not often make headlines, but it eats like termites at the structure of the nation.” (World Aflame, 1965, 20)
  • Before we think that we have no chance of experiencing the kind of brokenness that these families endure; perhaps we need to hear this quote from biblical counselor Bob Kelleman:
  • Any one of us can experience brokenness just as Sarah, Abraham, and Hagar did in today’s passage.
  • Brokenness described by Kelleman again is,  “the result of being sinned against and the result of facing suffering ‘brokenness.'”

Hook: Since brokenness comes into all of our lives, the question for us today is how does  a Christian respond to brokenness.

Message Points: Today I want to show you three possible responses to brokenness and offer you a Christian response.

  • Response 1: The Sarah – We Respond to Brokenness with Discord (21:8-10).
    • At a great time of rejoicing Sarah sees her broken family interacting and responds by creating discord.
    • In seeing the jesting between Hagar and Ishmael presumably about Isaac, Sarah must have felt jealousy. Giving into that feeling Sarah began sowing discord into this blended family.
    • If you are a non-Christian, you may see the brokenness in your life and without reservation take matters into your own hands and sow discord to protect yourself.
    • Jealousy is the refusal to trust God to fairly keep his promises to us when we compare ourself to someone else.
    • Notice that Sarah turned to Abraham for help when she should have turned to God.
    • Parents and especially moms, when someone appears to outshine or ridicule your child how often do you take matters into your own hands instead of leaving them in God’s hands? Do you ask someone to play God for you like Sarah did?
    • Church, when we see the brokenness in the families around us, do we continue to trust in God and share the gospel or do we seek to hire that person who will bring in the children and families we have not reached.
      • Friends, if we hire Brian today and expect that only he will have to reach children and families we will have failed to trust God’s power to save with the gospel.
      • We also will have created a recipe for Brian’s failure.
  • Response 2: The Abraham – We Respond to Brokenness with Depression (21:11-13).
    • Abraham should have been rejoicing at the party he threw for his son, but he responds with depression when Sarah asks him to try and play God by solving her crisis.
    • Abraham was given an impossible decision: He was asked to either lose his wife and promised son or abandon the son and wife he had been raising for years.
    • Anytime we get faced with impossible decisions the best thing to do is not play God but trust the principles He gives us in His Word.
      • God’s Word has tells a husband to love his wife like Christ loves the church. It also tells him to train up a child in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Abraham had a responsibility to protect and provide for the woman and child God recognized as his wife and promised son.
      • So how does this principle apply to Abraham’s other family? Notice God does not tell Abraham to stop caring for Hagar and Ishmael. Instead He challenges Abraham to trust him enough to take care of them even as Abraham fulfills his responsibility to Sarah his wife.
      • Parents, and especially moms today, when you get faced with an impossible parenting decisions, do you search the Scriptures, apply God’s principles and trust Him to take care of those things that you cannot take care of
    • When you are in the midst of a difficult situation or a number of difficult challenges do respond with  the worrisome and depressing thought that you must handle everything yourself? (Matt. 6:34)
    • If you are a Christian here this morning, no matter how difficult or challenging your life is, do not forget that in Christ you have someone who has done more than handle what you cannot. He has provided salvation, His Word, and the Holy Spirit.
    • If you can trust Christ to redeem you from hell, why can you not trust Him to help you right now?
  • Response 3: The Hagar – We Respond to Brokenness with Desperation (21:14-21).
    • Hagar was blindsided by Sarah’s demand and Abraham’s choice. Our actions do not affect us alone.
    • That said, when we are blindsided, to respond with desperation reflects a heart that does not trust that Christ is powerful enough to handle the disasters in our life.
    • Hagar can’t seem to catch a break. Even the provisions run out too soon. Even so, she knows who she can call on. Remember the last time we met Hagar. She encountered God who said he heard his cries.
    • She should have known to cry out to God but she does not. She despairs instead of listening for God.
    • This is the difference in having a God who sees us and a God who hears us when we cry.
    • Notice God tells Hagar that he hears the boy’s cry.
      • Children, if you are listening don’t miss what God said. Even a young boy no older than a teenager is heard by God.
      • God hears your prayers, children. Do you pray?
      • For that matter, if any of us would confess our sin of not trusting God, he will forgive us and cleanse our sin (1 John 1:9).
    • Are you an example for those in your life of how to turn and trust God, or do you only seek him in moments of desperation?

Conclusion: Do you notice a theme in these responses?

  • Each one of these responses led to more problems because the individuals did not turn to God in Christ for help. They turned to their own way. This is the definition of sin.
  • Friends, the right response to brokenness is trusting Christ to redeem us and equip us for every good work (2 Timothy 3:17).
  • While it is important to make your mam happy, the person you should seek out more than anyone is Jesus Christ.
  • Will you turn and trust Christ today to help you to respond to the brokenness in your life?
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